This is some thing that is close to my heart. As much as i try and take an objective view when i hear about people talk about being disappointed when they find out the sex of their baby at a scan, i can’t help but feel the anger start to bubble a little bit.
I can’t imagine going to scan and being told you are carrying a healthy boy or girl and feeling disappointment. Its heartbreaking to think that when some parents see their perfect baby, for one of the first times, the overriding emotion is sadness.
It seems to be that for some reason a lot of women are desperate to have a girl. In the majority of cases i read or hear about it’s often that the women in question is pregnant with a boy. I have two boys myself and here are some of the questions/comments i have had…
‘Oh i bet your hoping for a little girl this time round’ – nope
‘Would you have another so you could try for a girl next time?’ – nope i would only ever have a child because i wanted ‘a child’.
‘two boys – oh’ ?!?!?!?
It’s as if people expect me to be disappointed with my boys. That somehow my family is substandard as i don’t have the perfect set up of one of each.
how could i be disappointed?!
I’m not sure if my opinion is clouded by the fact that we have received bad news at a scan before and sadly went on to lose a baby. All my subsequent scans were terrifying and for me the only important thing was that the baby was alive and healthy. The gender just seemed so insignificant on the scale of things.
However; people can’t help how they feel can they? If you do crave a specific gender maybe it is better to talk about it and deal with it. If people are too scared to admit to gender disappointment because of the stigma that goes with it perhaps it could lead to bigger problems down the line.
What do you think? Did/do you have a preference for either gender? Do you think gender disappointment is quite normal or should people just be grateful that they are having a baby full stop?
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